Shalom Bayit

Shalom Bayit means peace in the home. The Shalom Bayit Program provides short- and long-term assistance to those facing physical violence, or emotional or sexual abuse in their families or intimate relationships. We strive to prevent abuse and to mobilize the Jewish community to create the social change needed to end domestic violence. We provide educational programming, advocacy and consultation, and we work to dispel the myth that abuse does not occur in Jewish homes.

What is Abuse?

Abuse is a pattern of power and control, where one person uses physical, emotional, or sexual violence to control another. Partner Abuse occurs in all types of intimate relationships - marriages, dating relationships, and intimate heterosexual, lesbian and gay relationships. Abuse also occurs toward children and older adults.

Often referred to as domestic violence, abuse takes many forms and can affect anyone, from small children to older adults. And Jewish families are not immune. It occurs in every ethnic, religious, educational and cultural group and at every income level.

If Your Partner…

Tries to control you, calls you names, humiliates you, makes you feel worthless, tells you you're a bad parent, threatens you, isolates you from your friends and family, forces you to have sex, pushes you, twists your arm, grabs you or frightens you, you may be in an abusive relationship.

At JF&CS, we offer a variety of services to all survivors of abuse, including prevention and educational programming, and advocacy for social changes needed to eliminate violence in the families and relationships.

If you have been abused and need immediate assistance, call the following:

  • Georgia Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.33.HAVEN (1.800.334.2836) (V/TTY)
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1.800.799.SAFE (1.800.799.7233) or 1.800.787.3224 (TTY)
  • National Teen Dating Violence Hotline: 1.866.331.9474 or 1.866.331.8453 (TTY)
  • Childhelp National Child Abuse Hotline: 1.800.4.A.CHILD (1.800.422.4453)
  • National Sexual Assault Hotline: 1.800.656.HOPE

Direct Services for Justice and Healing

  • Woman to Woman: A support group for women who have been emotionally, physically or sexually abused by a partner.
  • Individual counseling, crisis intervention, safety planning and referrals for adults and family members affected by abuse, provided by experienced social workers who understand domestic violence.

Education, Awareness and Social Change Programs

  • Speakers, films and workshops: Presentations on domestic violence and child abuse, including programs with particular emphasis on Jewish families. Programs are tailored to your synagogue or community group and include day-long communitywide conferences and trainings addressing issues of abuse.
  • "Not So Happily Ever After… the very real stories of some American Jewish families": A powerful dramatic presentation, based on true stories of Jewish individuals who have been abused. Created by Mira Hirsch, for the Shalom Bayit Program.
  • Educational programs on healthy relationships and dating violence prevention for teens and young adults.
  • Clothesline Project: Women who have been victims of domestic violence design t-shirts as part of the healing process and to express personal experiences of violence.

Domestic Violence Facts & Figures

  • One in every four women will experience domestic violence in her lifetime.
  • An estimated 1.3 million women are victims of physical assault by an intimate partner each year.
  • Studies indicate that 85% of domestic violence victims are women, but recognize that abuse also happens to men and in same-sex relationships. Most cases of domestic violence are never reported to the police.
  • 30% to 60% of perpetrators of intimate partner violence also abuse children in the household.
  • A report of child abuse is made every 10 seconds in this country.
  • 90% of child sexual abuse victims know the perpetrators.
  • Witnesses of violence by one's parents is a strong risk factor for transmitting violent behavior from one generation to the next.
  • According to the Georgia Commission on Family Violence, 761 women, men and children in Georgia lost their lives due to domestic violence between 2003 and 2008.